Of late I have been much intrigued by the changes in the behavioural patterns of girls and boys of my age. No, I wont be getting into the 'girls of today Vs boys of today' debate, neither will I engage myself into the polemic of 'the changing face of women shrouded in a male dominated society'. No. This article isn't about that. As I pen down this article (which has intrigued me a lot for months now) I already take into assumption that girls have changed, and the change has been towards the good. From the girls of yester years who had been subjugated for eons,till today,girls have come a long way in changing their role in the development of the modern world.I have felt this change vicariously. On the other hand, what I have also felt is the radical change in the nature of boys. I say this(and with authority) that no longer are boys dreaming of dominating girls. But unfortunately, people don't care to ruminate upon this.What they only talk is about how women have broken their bondage and set themselves free, etc. But one thing is for sure.Women do owe their freedom partly to men. If it had not been for men sharing that extra space with women, it would not have been possible for women to enjoy the liberty they are enjoying today.(no,this is not a male chauvinistic comment)
But, in the face of all these changes one thing has remained unchanged.Girls still prefer to keep mum when it comes to expressing her feelings first... I fail to understand this, but whenever talks of love and romanticism creeps into a relationship the modernity of girls seem to fade into oblivion.They suddenly become shrouded in a cloud of shyness. They are then ready to wait for the boy to take the initiative...Why should it be so always?
I understand some of the inhibiting factors responsible for a girl's introvertism in expressing her feelings.A number of inconceivable flirts and dallys are but a big reason behind this.This is more so in the so called BIG CITIES.A certain category of guys do not seem to pause and think even for a moment before expressing their amorous sentiments vocally.Moreover, they do so to any good looking girl they find at every bend of their life.Consideration of factors like suitability, bonding in the long run, nature & habits simply do not seem to contribute anything to the rationale behind a proposal.Some simply love to compare this 'proposing game' to a mathematical "HIT & TRIAL" method. This HIT & TRIAL even if successful, tantamounts to meretricious relationships eventually leading to break-ups. Notingly, these category of people simply move in and out of relationships without any glitches.All this has created nothing but a confusion, in the minds of girls. As a result most have stopped taking proposals seriously.
Agreed. Everything said and done one thing that vexes me most is why do girls treat every guy as if they belong to the same league of the dallys. Forming a biased opinion based on what a few rich spoiled brats do, is totally wrong. I mean there are boys who still feel shy to express their sentiments to a girl.It is the fear of being rejected that haunts them.My question is why should it always be the guys who have to carry that bit of fear.
In this age of equality, its my clarion call to all the girls please do not hesitate to take the initiative. Otherwise you may end up waiting a bit too long.
